"Date Night"

You've heard it once, you've heard it a million times. It is so important to get out with your spouse on a regular basis.

Tom and I manage to get out here and there. We don't have a set schedule for date night. Sometimes it happens more frequently and other times, there is a large gap between. Recently, I started to feel like we must not have a healthy marriage because we don't "get out" as often as others. When I took a step back, I realized that there are so many reasons for that.

It's not money. We have plenty of babysitters and lots of family around. There are enough ideas on the internet for free or cheap ideas so that isn't it....I am not saying we are loaded! haha.

It's certainly not that we just don't want to. I LOVE an evening out with my hubby....and I think he likes nights out with me....ha!

I realized that we are one of those couples who tend to get time together on a regular basis at home. Right now, where we are in life, the kids are [usually] in bed by 8:30 and we are night owls so we have a few hours at night of uninterrupted time. Sure, we both spend time doing our own thing too but we tend to get time to talk about the day or what is going on in our lives daily. I know that it isn't like that for others and it may not always be like that for us. Some people work later than Tom. Some families have two working parents. Others have opposite schedules...whatever the reason, I am not going to sit here and tell you that you are doing something wrong. Circumstances change things.

I would like to encourage you to spend quality time together. Marriage comes before kids. Period. ****Disclaimer...I am not saying to ignore your children to spend time with your sweetheart*** Your kids seeing a healthy marriage before them will make them more confident in life and give them a security they would not otherwise have.

I truly believe that one of the largest reasons for divorce and marital issues these days (besides needing a marriage centered on God) is that couples spend too much time doing their own thing. They "grow apart" simply because they are not continuing to know each other. If this is you, take a step back. Drop something from your schedule and fall in love again with the person already in your life.

Marriage is a wonderful gift from God and just like other gifts that He gives us, we should be "using" it the best we can!

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