Modest Mommy

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In thinking so much lately about how to teach my girls modesty, it has also made me think about what that should mean as a mommy. 

We should be living by example for our daughters, right? Not just telling them why and how to dress but also dressing appropriately ourselves. 

There is also a balance between looking modest and looking nice for our husbands. While I don't feel that I have issues with dressing in an modest way, I think that my problem is my desire to live in pajama pants an a t-shirt. haha. It wouldn't kill me to look a little bit nicer sometimes and when I do, it usually makes me feel better!

However, recently, I overheard a conversation while sitting in a waiting room on this topic and it really made me think. 

The two women (neither of which I know) were talking about how women should dress "sexy" for their man. Although I would not completely disagree with them, I also believe that word can have many meanings. To me, when I hear that word, it means provocatively. While I believe that there are for sure times IN PRIVATE that this is not a bad thing for us to do, I think that women today, even Christian women, are crossing a line. 

There is not a need to be showing certain parts of your body in a public setting.  What are you trying to accomplish by doing so? I have noticed lately how many women walk around in public (grocery store, mall, restaurants...etc.) with super low cut shirts and/or a skirts or shorts that leave little to the imagination. 

You can argue that men should be able to control themselves and this is their issue, not ours, but I think that God has called women to something higher than that. 

Romans 14:13 "Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother." (The rest of this through verse 20 is also great on the topic)

Please, sister in Christ, do not think that I am passing judgement on you. Although modesty may not be my top issue (although I am sure there are times that I unknowingly wear something that maybe I shouldn't) I come with my own issues. We are all sinful or there would be no issues but we are to strive for perfection even though it is unattainable.

What I am asking is to think twice about what you are putting on. If your low cut top is your favorite, stick a cami underneath. Think about why you love it. Why does it make you feel beautiful? Are you looking for attention from your body?

Let's not cause our brothers in Christ to stumble and let us teach our daughters the same....or our friends daughters, or our nieces...you get the picture. Let's teach our sons  and nephews and so on to love a woman from the inside out rather than aiding this World with the perverse things that is already accepts. 

In the Culture we are exposed to on a daily basis, we have to work twice as hard to teach modesty because it is not being modeled almost anywhere else. 

Let's stick together and be a "Modest Mommy".

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